Have you ever considered living in a small space with kids? Scared it might drive you insane? Well, this one’s for you. If you’re new, here’s a bit of background: after travelling the world with my husband and child for 15 months, we downsized into an 860 square foot, 2 bedroom, 1 bath duplex (called a ‘flat’ here in New Zealand) from our 1200 square foot, 3 bed, 2 bath plus garage, bungalow. The reasons were: more money for future travel + we’d lived for over a year in small spaces and been deliriously happy.
- 12 Life-Changing Benefits of Living in a Smaller Home
- Downsizing With A Family: Why We’re Going Smaller
- 7 Things to Consider Before Downsizing Your Home
- 47 Things to Get Rid of Right Now
We’ve now added child 2 and have been living in our small home for over a year. The end goal of optimal living is still a long way off, but I’ve managed a few tweaks to get us closer to maximising the use of our small space, and I wanted to share those with you now.
How to make living in a small space with kids more
Insulate for noise control
Let’s get the bad news out there first. Small houses suck when it comes to noise. This wasn’t a problem for us until we had a newborn and a three-year-old. Trying to get the baby to sleep whilst his big bro had a scream-a-thon through the very thin non-insulated walls was not fun. Actually, that is being diplomatic. It was catastrophic. No one got any sleep and we were all tired and cranky for months. We soon realised it was easier to let the big boy ‘help’ me get baby to sleep than try to keep him quiet on the other side of the wall. Now we’re slowly renovating and will eventually add insulation to all the internal walls for noise control.
We were quite lucky coming back from overseas travel as we didn’t have a whole lot of stuff so the big boy didn’t feel deprived when we took his toys away. The day we unloaded all our stuff from the storage unit was like Christmas for him, but we were able to selectively add and remove items. Now we have a pretty ruthless attitude towards toys, and try not to buy any new. We might pick something up from the local thrift store with the knowledge it will eventually break or be donated again. (I wrote a more in-depth article on how we manage toy clutter here)
Get smart with storage
I could write a whole post on storage, but my tops tips are these.
The space under beds is the best place to store clothes and toys. If you have enough clearance, I recommend getting drawers that sit under the bed. Ours are on casters and roll right under the bunks, sitting flush against the side of the base when stored. They are huge and fit everything we need in the room.
If you don’t have the space, these under bed storage bags are the next best thing.
The backs of your doors can become swinging clothes racks. We have screwed hooks into the door frames, but if you’re renting and can’t put a hole in the wall, these over door clothes racks should see you right.
Make the most of outdoor space
We have a partially covered outdoor porch. This is where shoes, gumboots and outdoor gear live. It’s not perfect but it keeps the outdoor stuff out of the house which helps to reduce clutter.
Something comes in something goes out
We try not to bring many new things into our home. I prefer to use up what we have or make do with other things. That said, things like kids shoes and jackets need to be replaced. We are lucky to live close to a charity donation bin so I’m often running over to place a bag of used items. If something comes in, I always try to take at least one thing away.
Warn grandparents about giving large gifts
You can do your best to minimise the toys your kid has and then boom – along comes Nanna. My parents have now been gently coached for over a year in how we live. We ask them not to buy large gifts for the kids, or if they must, those toys stay at their house. Seriously, there is a teddy bear larger than my husband taking up an armchair in my parent’s living room. Every single time we go to their house the boys play with the human-sized bear. I bet if it was at our house they would hardly touch it (and it would drive me bonkers).
Making children share a room is not child abuse
I got a great comment on one of my first posts about downsizing our house with kids and it went along the lines of ‘making kids share a room is not child abuse’. I laughed when I read that as I grew up with my own bedroom and never had to share a room. Having my kids share a room was one of the downsides of living small for me, as I wanted them to have their own space. But they’ll be just fine, and hopefully be great mates. We do have the option of putting up a stud wall and turning our dining room into a tiny third bedroom, which I’m considering for the future.
But really, downsizing to a smaller home with kids has been a great move for us. There are challenges, sure, but none that can’t be overcome with smart storage and patience. When the boys get older we might have to give them the larger bedroom or build a studio in the backyard to give them more space for themselves, but we can manage that. Perhaps one of the greatest benefits of living small is being constantly aware of everything you bring into your life and making sure only the essential tools of life make the cut. Plus, I like to think I’m doing my bit for the future generation by raising sons who lightly consume that which they need, and don’t source their joy from things. It’s hard work sometimes, but I think it’s a worthwhile feat.