Update: January 2019 – Since I wrote this in 2015, this post has proved to be very popular. Turns out loads of people are interested in downsizing with kids or moving to a smaller space with a family.
Because of that reason I have started a new site dedicated to sharing our downsizing story including all the best tips and tricks for living in a small home with kids. Check out the site here: Little House, Lovely Home.
If you read my last post you will know that I am pregnant. In November I will become a mother of two.
Part of the reason we planned to head home was this pregnancy. I had entertained the idea of taking a TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language) course and moving to Japan to teach English. Anything but go home.
But there is something to be said for being a citizen of a country and entitled to healthcare benefits. My 12-week scan in Spain cost €180, then the 20-week scan and check-up in Ireland cost €200. Including GP visits and prescriptions this baby would cost nearly $1000NZD before 28 weeks.
In New Zealand, all of my pre and post natal care is free. So there’s that.
Plus I’m starting to tire of constant travel. I want a home base for a while. Like we had in Spain.
We are due to land back in New Zealand in mid-August. We’ve had many discussions over all the things we need to sort out when we get back. Jobs, preschool, internet connection. Where to live.
We own 2 rental properties in Christchurch. One is a duplex style 2 bedroom, 80 sq/m (approx 860 sq/ft for my American readers) unit with a big enough back garden.
The other is a three bedroom, 120 sq/m (1290 sq/ft) standalone bungalow on a large plot of land. That’s where we lived when we left and where I expected we would return.
Many people experience profound shifts in thought and attitude while travelling. I’m no exception. Almost everything I thought I knew about life has tilted. Like my perspective on what I truly need.
On what my children need to be happy and healthy. How much stuff we require to have full and functioning lives.
When the idea of moving to the smaller unit came to me I dismissed it instantly. I grew up in a three-bedroom house, with one brother.
I have never had to share a bedroom. In fact, when we purchased the smaller property the tenants were a family with 2 children. It was unfathomable to me that a family would choose to live in such cramped quarters.
But now we have survived just over 14 months living out of three bags, I absolutely know in my heart that we don’t need much stuff. And it’s stuff that takes up space, not people. If we want to make this dream life of more travel and time with each other a reality the trade-off is less stuff. And less space for the stuff. It seems like a pretty fair swap.
Of course, the reasons for my re-evaluation are not all driven by a minimalist transformation. There are favourable numbers to aid my decision. Like savings of nearly $500 per month in living costs due to a smaller mortgage, smaller electricity bill, cheaper daycare, access to better public transport.
Do you know what $500 per month buys? This is what I said to my husband.
The benefits of downsizing with a family
- Closer family relationships – our kids will share a bedroom and we’ll only have one combined family living space so we’ll be near each other all the time
- Financial benefits – the $500 plus per month we’ll save and the future benefit of a drastically reduced housing spend
- Environmental impact – we’ll use less water and electricity in our new home. We’ll also use a lot less fuel and drive less as our new home is in a walkable area
With some careful planning and the use of low-cost carriers $6000 could get us to Europe – at least before the baby turns two and needs a seat. It will most definitely get us to Mexico.
Then there’s the less space to clean, heat and maintain. Which of course means less space to live, but I’ll be doing my best to make that small space as efficient as possible.
Oh, and if we do stay long-term there is a primary school right across the road. I could walk my children (again, plural) to school in one minute.
I’ll also be a ten-minute walk to the ocean and within walking distance to banks, supermarkets, preschool and cafes.
One of the major benefits of this move is that we can keep a stellar tenant in the bigger house. Asking a family with three children to leave their home is something I’ve agonised over since we decided to head back to New Zealand so I’m relieved we can provide them with some stability.
Plus the bigger house commands a higher rent, currently $100 more per week than the smaller unit so it’s a win-win.
All of these positives aren’t to say I’m not apprehensive. It doesn’t feel natural to seek less space with a growing family. But if we want to alter our life plans to semi-retire early we have to make drastic changes.
I’m terrified of going home. That ringing in my ears. Stomach knots. But this almost feels like an adventure. The first step towards a simpler life with more travel and less working for the man. Which I can absolutely manage.
Have you considered downsizing with a family? Any tips or advice you’d like to share?